When Persistance Pays Off

Things I’ve learnt in the last four months:

  • I should follow my gut.
  • I know my baby better than anyone.
  • I was right.
  • It was worth it/He is worth it.
  • God is good.
  • Research is my friend.

And that’s just from the gassy baby saga. Which is thankfully now coming to a close. I wanted to document more fully the process we’ve been through with Lior’s wind, and how we’ve come to the conclusions we have about his problems. I have a tinge of regret that I didn’t share more here what was happening WHILE it was happening, but I know I wasn’t really in a place where I could share back then. And I felt WAY to much guilt about how much I thought parenting sucked at the beginning! I now know that it did suck, a lot, but that Lior’s problems weren’t just ‘normal baby things’, they were more serious, so I was right to feel upset and overwhelmed. :-)

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then here’s the goss: Lior has an infant dairy intollerance. This has been the cause of some MAJOR discomfort for him, and has been a big stress in our family. Since removing dairy from my diet (and therefore him not getting any milk proteins via breastmilk) he no longer has any wind, and is the happiest baby you ever did see! I feel like we’re seeing him in more fullness. That his personality is shining through more, and that we’re getting to know him better with problems and interruptions.

I will do a bit of a mini-series here sharing our personal experience, as also links to reserach that’s helped us figure this thing out. Stay tuned!

Self Discovery

Have you ever just suddenly realised that you have a personality trait you never knew about? Just a few weeks ago I discovered that I am a stubborn person. Very stubborn apparently. It makes a lot of sense, and explains a lot of things. I’m not sure why I never knew it before. Well, that’s not entirely true- I happen to have a brother who is very stubborn, and he was my guage of stubborness. Compared to him I wasn’t stubborn much at all, so I never really considered it…

Anyway, stubbornness is bad, right? It’s the reason why I take so long to say I’m sorry, why I can’t admit I’m wrong, why I get into arguments, and why I still sulk. I need to work on these things, and identifying the cause is the first step I guess.

But as I started to see when I was being stubborn, I realised it’s not all bad. It’s the reason I laboured so long, without pain medication- People told me I couldn’t, so I did. Kinda just to spite, them and kinda cause that was what I wanted to do, and no one could stop me. It’s the reason I don’t give up, it’s the reason I percivered so long trying to find the cause of Lior’s wind.

It’s nice to not just see the negative side of this personanilty trait. I think it’s something that’s designed to be a good thing, but sometimes instead of good, I use it for evil…!

Have you ever discovered something about yourself it would have been handy to know earlier in life? Are you a stubborn person too??

Dear Lior: Four Months

Dear Lior,

You are four months old. You are so beautiful and perfect. I absolutely love being your mum, and every week gets better than the last. I love my days with you- being at home, and watching you smile, learn and play. You are my sunshine.

This month we went and visited your Nonna on the Gold Coast, and we all stayed the night. You were a little unsettled. I guess you’re getting old enough now to know when you’re at home, and when you’re at someone else’s house. This month you also met a brand new friend- Tilly! She was born about a week ago, and is quite beautiful.

For most of your fourth month you still had really bad wind. I got really angry that noone was taking your pain seriously, and was sick of trying everything I could think of. I called lots of people- the doctors, the child health clinic, and the naturopath, and while I was waiting for the appointments I tried giving up dairy to see if you had an infant dairy intolerance. Well, it turns out you did. All this time I’d been avoiding other foods (and probably eating EXTRA dairy because of that) and it was the cow proteins that were making you sick! Well today, on your four month birthday you’ve been gas free for eight days! I am so happy, and life has improved dramatically for all of us.

About a day after you had no wind, I realised that while you were generally a pretty good sleeper, we had spoiled you a bit because you were in pain. It was time to help you learn some good sleep habits, so we did some sleep training with you, and now you’re almost a perfect self-soother! I know things might change if you get sick, or when your teeth get bad, but for now Daddy and I are enjoying having some time together in the evenings, and I’ve got so much more energy now that I’m not spending so much time putting you to sleep each day!

I do have to mention, that for a few nights there your wind and therefore sleeping at night was so increadibly terrible that Grandma had to come and stay just so mummy could get some sleep! You like having Grandma around- she came to visit and help mummy quite a few days this month.

You met your Uncle Jordan this month, which was pretty exciting. He was down from Daydream Island, and came for dinner to see how awesome you are.

In the last week we bought you a little seat for the bath. So it’s no more baby bath, and only the occasional shower with dad now. I think (hope!) you like sitting up in the bath a bit, and I’m looking forward to when you can play with your bath toys!

Did I mention how much I love you? I seriously do. I love watching you get better at tummy time (though still not your favourite thing!!), rolling to your sides, kicking and hitting the bats on the mobile above your mat, sitting up in your bumbo, looking around, smiling, snuggling into our necks when you’re tired, watching Pepper, chewing on toys, and watching the pages as we read you books!

Also, for the sake of record keeping, I fed you some mushy figs this week to help you poo. You’re terribly stuffy in there, and the naturopath recommended some figs and prunes to keep you a bit more regular! You don’t mind it, but don’t really like eating for very long. You much prefer the boob, which suits me just fine! I’m favouring the tummy massages for getting your poop out!

I think that’s about all for month four. You’re looking so grown up, and make my heart melt often. I love you.

Perfect Days

I just want to acknowledge that motherhood is a tough gig, but sometimes you are totally blessed with a bunch of consecutive days that are just… perfect. The end of last week was just that. Lior’s wind is no more, so I’ve been at home resting (I have had a bit of a cold) with a SMILEY, HAPPY, CONTENT baby who now goes to sleep by himself, and is just best thing since sliced bread!

Our days are filled with love and smiles and games. A comibnation of no more wind for Lior, and self-soothing to sleep means Lior is getting much longer, better quality sleeps in the day and it’s really making a difference to his demeanor for the rest of the day. It also means I am finally, for the first time in five or six months (the end of the pregnancy was incredibly exhausting- combo of baby + thyroid issues) I am PRODUCTIVE in the day, and getting things done. It feels great.

I know not all days are like this, and not all weeks are like this either, which is why I think last week deserves special attention and appreciation. :-)

My First Mothers Day

So, my first mothers day!

It was a pretty lovely day, with Lior giving my smiles and cuddles in the morning, a gift, and breaskfast in bed. I owe a big thankyou to Luke for organising everything, including a special little card from Lior with an almost hand print on it. :-D

We headed up the coast after church and had lunch at mum and dad’s with my family (minus one brother, and plus Nana). It was a nice day, and I finally got round to taking the photos of I wanted of my parents and Nana and I with Lior. I’ll show you some later in the week, after Lior’s four month update, and some other posts that need to be shared!

Above: Lior ‘passing’ me the envelope with my card and present inside.

Above: The card from Lior and a massage voucher!

Product Review: YumBums

Product Talk by Nuffnang

A few weeks ago we were sen this Yumbums bottom balm to try on Lior’s tooshie. Before I let you know how it went, I’ll let their website tell you what yumbums is all about!

Yumbums for Bubs is an all natural bottom balm which soothes, calms, moisturises and protects your baby’s delicate nappy area.

Yumbums blends organic olive oil, organic beeswax and organic coconut oil to create a natural protective barrier which also hydrates and maintains skin pH. Together with herbal extracts of Calendula, Chamomile, Golden Seal and Licorice root which have been specially chosen for their skin healing properties, Yumbums will keep your baby’s bum YUM!

Yumbums is proudly made in Australia and is formulated by a qualified naturopath. Yumbums uses only the highest quality natural ingredients with nothing toxic or irritating added such as petrochemicals, parabens, sulphates, synthetic fragrances or colours. YUCK!

 

I found the yumbums definitely did what it says it does- keeps your baby’s bum hydrated etc. Whenever I used it on him his skin was still really moist by the time he was ready for another nappy change.

I tend to put nappy rash cream on Lior when I see even a hint of redness. Better safe than sorry I think! So at the beginning of the week when I saw a bit of redness in his leg rolls (Chubba bubba!!) near his crotch I used the yumbums. The nappy rash never eventuated- thanks Yumbums!

Be warned, this stuff doesn’t SMELL the greatest (it doesn’t stink though), but this is minor compared to the knowledge that what you’re putting onto your baby is totally natural, which is a major bonus in our books! I’m yet to try the yumbums on actual nappy rash or anything like that. I guess it’s one of those things- you can’t MAKE your kid have nappy rash just for a product review! I’m also really keen for Luke to try it on his eczema to see if it will help clear that up, so even though this is my ‘official’ review, I plan to give you an update once Luke’s tried it on his eczma for a few weeks!

Recipe: Breakfast Risotto

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Since my research on breastfeeding I’ve come to the conclusion that, even though I REALLY don’t want to, I have to give the dairy free thing a try. I eat dairy at every meal, particularly breakfast where I have a banana shake. So I had to think of something a bit different for breakfast (the gluten free thing makes toast a bit difficult/yuk).

I’ve made this breakfast risotto dairy free, but if you substituted the coconut milk for regular milk or cream, you’d have a dairy version!

Ingredients for BASIC breakfast risotto:

1 serve of aborio rice (approx 1/4 cup)
Water
Coconut milk
1 heaped tbs of dextrose

Put your aborio rice into a pan with a bit of water. Put on a medium heat and once the water has been soaked into the rice stir and add more.
Continue this process until the rice is softened, but still has a bit too much bite to eat like that.
Add a good slug of coconut milk and continue cooking till the rice is al dante.

VARIATIONS:

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For this citrus version, add a few pieces or lemon and orange rind, and a couple of cloves to the water at the beginning. Take them out once the risotto is finished and top with grated orange zest.

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For this banana version I mashed a banana into my plate, then mixed into the plain risotto.

Breastfeeding Research

So since I wrote that post the other day about seeing the light at then end of tunnel in regards to Lior’s wind, we’ve had some new major attacks. Actually, truth be told, they started a few days before I posted that (I had written the post a week or so early and hadn’t published it yet), but I was hoping it would clear up again!

It hasn’t, and after only getting sleep at 3am with Lior laying on top of me, my mum coming to stay Sunday night to help, and another horrible bout of wind last night I thought it was time to try something new. Insanity, they say, is doing something over and over again and hoping for different results. So I thought I’d do some more research to get to the bottom of the whole food and breastfeeding thing, as well as baby wind in general.

Some research:

In the rare instance that food is causing gassiness and fussiness, it’s most likely a problem with dairy protein. Symptoms of a food allergy or intolerance might include diarrhea, rash, fussiness, gas, runny nose, cough, or congestion. You might try cutting out all dairy products (milk, cheese, yogurt, butter) for a couple of weeks to see if there’s an improvement.

http://www.babycenter.com/0_breast-milk-interactions-chart_8788.bc

…there are so many variables involved, including how often you nurse, the type of food you eat, and your individual body chemistry and metabolism. An average (and this is only an average) is about 4-6 hours, but it can reach your milk as soon as one hour or take as long as twenty-four hours.

 

During the first six months of life, the lining of the baby’s is immature, so allergens that appear in the milk can get into the bloodstream and trigger allergic responses in some extremely sensitive babies. The lining of the intestines is also more sensitive during the early months, and is more easily irritated than it would be later on by the same substances.

 

After six months, the lining of the intestines matures so that allergens can’t get through as easily and
your baby will be much less sensitive to foods in your diet. That’s one of the reasons that babies should be exclusively breastfed for the first six months of life. If solids are introduced before that time, then the baby is more likely to have an allergic reaction to something that might not affect him later on.

http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/qa/what-i-eat-to-get-into-my-breastmilk

This is confusing because it’s contrary to recent research I shared on our FB page, saying that there are benefits to introducing solids at 4 months…

All babies have days when they are gassy, fussy, or spit up more than usual, and chances are that it has nothing to do with your diet. Nursing mothers rarely have to make any dietary modifications.

http://www.breastfeedingbasics.com/qa/what-i-eat-to-get-into-my-breastmilk

What IS the cause of gassiness etc then??

How do substances enter human milk? When someone takes medication or eats food, the substance is usually broken down by the digestive tract and then molecule-sized components of the substance are absorbed into the blood. When these molecules get to the capillaries near the breast tissue, they move through the cells that line the alveoli and into the milk, a process known as diffusion.

 

The process of diffusion allows good things, such as antibodies, to easily enter colostrum and mature milk. Antibodies are a kind of protein found in blood that help the body fight infection.

 

This is one of the great advantages of breastfeeding. All women transfer antibodies to their babies during pregnancy and birth, but breastfeeding prolongs the time in which the mother’s body helps protect the baby from illness.

 

However, other substances also enter the breast by diffusion. One fairly common belief about breastfeeding is that if mothers eat foods that make her gassy, such as broccoli or cabbage, the baby will be gassy. Is this true? No. Gas from a mother’s intestinal tract cannot pass into her blood and deposit itself into the breast for her baby to drink. However, when food is digested, some of the proteins do enter the blood and may then pass into a mother’s milk. Some babies may be sensitive to a particular protein and react with gas and fussiness. If a baby has an obvious reaction every time a mother eats a certain food, she can eliminate that food from her diet, but it is important to remem-ber that, for most fussy and gassy babies, the problem stems from some source other than mother’s milk.

This is important to understand.

 

Mothers sometimes think that after they drink a glass of wine the alcohol stays in their milk until that milk is removed from the breast. As a result, they may hesitate to breastfeed their baby and decide to pump the milk out instead. In reality, the level of alcohol in the milk drops as a mother’s blood levels drop. It takes two to three hours for a 120-pound woman to eliminate from her body the amount of alcohol found in a single glass of wine or beer. When the alcohol is eliminated from her blood, it is also gone from her milk.

Anatomy of a Working Breast By Anna Edgar

Sebring FL USA From: NEW BEGINNINGS, Vol. 22 No. 2, March-April 2005, pp. 44-50

Gas is produced in the digestive tract from the moment baby has his or her first drink of breast milk or formula. Newborn gas is a natural by-product of digesting lactose, proteins and other nutrients.

 http://www.coliccalm.com/baby_infant_newborn_articles/gas_problems_treatment.htm

Amber Teething Necklaces

Sometimes I say things that lots of people don’t agree with. This might be one of those things.

Recently Talia shared about Lior’s teething issues. Quite a number of people recommended amber teething necklaces. With a little scepticism, but eager for a solution, I decided to do a bit of research. I wanted to share what I found.

Amber teething necklaces are scientifically unfounded, and mildly dangerous for babies.

Based on my research, they’re no different to the Power Balance bracelet scam.

To tell you why would only be to recap what other people have already written, so instead, here are a few links that I found useful:

On the science:
http://www.drweil.com/drw/u/QAA400886/Are-Amber-Teething-Necklaces-Worthwhile.html
http://scepticon.wordpress.com/2011/02/21/amber-teething-beads-a-few-points-to-consider/

On the danger:
http://www.fairtrading.qld.gov.au/amber-teething-necklace.htm
http://www.lisabarger.com/does-it-work/amber-teething-necklaces.html

As some commenters pointed out, there are other natural solutions for helping babies with teething besides amber. What are some that have worked for you?

Family Photo Love

One of the things I kinda wish I did while I was pregnant was get professional photos taken. It was one of those things that didn’t happen due to a severe lack of funds, but I still wish it had happened. I am super grateful that I have a nice camera, that can take decent photos though, so I have the semi-weekly photos of my belly against the fence. At 37 weeks we took a few family style ones as well, and when I was in labour we took some photos of Luke & I together with my belly, and Pepper.

Hopefully we’ll get some nice family photos taken one day, but the other day I got a bit sick of waiting. Lior is growing up SO fast, and I want to get some nice pictures of us at these different ages. So on ANZAC day, while Luke was home from work, I set the camera up on a chair, got out the remote, and we took some lovely photos!